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Parents
- Parenting
Tips - Parent Update
Sessions
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Participating in Your Child's
Therapy - Helping Your
Whole
Family
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Common
Stressors
for
Children -
Knowing When
to
Call
Your
are the
most
important
person
in
your
child's
life
and
your
child
wants
to
connect
with
you
more
than
anyone
else. So
it
is
wonderful
to
know
that
you
have
a
great
deal
of
influence
in
guiding
your
child
toward
positive
ways
of
making
that
connection
with
you,
and
ultimately
with
themself.
Since
parenting
is
one
of
the
most
intense
jobs
you'll
ever
have,
it
can
be
such
a
relief
to
get
a
few new techniques
from
the
experts
on
ways
to
invite
the
most
positive
outcomes.
And
when
the
connection
between
you
and
your
child becomes
challenging,
consider
scheduling
a
few
sessions
with
Wellspring
to
get
you
moving
in
the
right
direction
again.
Check
out
some
of
the
parenting
tips listed
below.
Parenting
Tips.
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Active listening and active
communication are
a
set
of
skills
that
parents
can
use
to
support
and
guide your
children
in
handling
many
of
their
own
problems. And
using
respectful
ways
to
lead
them
through
family
interactions
helps
build
their
self-esteem
and
responsibility
that
will
last
them
a
lifetime
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"Seven Steps to
Talking
with
Your
Children"
Adapted
from
"Active
Parenting"
by
M.
Popkin
1.
Listen
Actively
to
Your
Child.
When
you
listen
fully,
you
are
not
just
a
passive
receiver
of
information,
you
participate
actively
in
the
communication
process.
The
goal
is
to
encourage
your
child
to
express
what
he
or
she
thinks
and
feels.
This
can
be
done
verbally,
through
play,
drawing
and
other
methods.
2.
Keep
Your
Own
Talk
to
a
Minimum.
Give
your
full
attention
and
acknowledge
what
you
are
hearing.
3. Listen
For
the
Feelings
That
are
Implied
in
What
They
Say
or
Do
and
Model
How
to
Talk
About
It.
There
are
no
wrong
feelings.
Children
experience
relief
when
adults
help
by
putting
their
child's
feelings
into
words.
"You
seem
kind
of
sad
today." "That must
have
made
you
feel
really
mad
when
your
friend
did
that."
"I
bet
you
are
very
proud
that
you
finished."
4.
Connect
Feelings
to
the
Content
of
What
Your
Child
is
Saying.
Then
reflect
those
feelings
back
to
the
child.
"It
looks
like
you
are
really
excited
about
your
drawing!"
5. Guide Children in
Looking for
Alternatives
and
Predicting
Outcomes.
Especially when they
struggle
with
issues
or
are
acting
out.
Helping
your
child
become
an
effective
problem
solver
means
helping
them
look
at
alternative
solutions
and
weighing
the
potential
outcomes.
Adjust
the
degree
of
guidance
according
to
the
child's
age
and
needs.
If
you
go
too
far
and
take
over,
the
child
feels
discouraged,and
misinterprets
this
as
"You
are
not
capable
of
doing
things,
so
don't
bother
trying,
you
are
not
smart
enough
to
learn
how."
6. Let
Your
Child
Have
Some
Responsibility
for
Deciding Which Alternative to
Choose.
Still provide safety
boundaries
and
guidance,
but
just
pull
back
a
little
bit
and
allow
them
the
room
to
come
up
with
some
solutions. Still
be
there
with
them
and be
supportive
rather
than
just
dumping
the
burden
of
responsibility
on
them
and
leaving.
Children
who
take
an
active
role
in
finding
solutions
feel
a
surge
of
self-esteem
and
learn
to
accept
responsibility
for
their
choices.
7. Follow up by Asking
What
They
Intend
to
Do
and
When.
After your
child
has
had
an
opportunity
to
handle
the
problem,
follow
up
by
asking
"How
did
it
go
with...?"
In
doing
this,
you
not
only
help
your
child
make
sense
of
the
total
experience,
but
you
also
confirm
that
your
interest
was
genuine
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When your child is
involved
in
their
own
play
therapy
sessions,
once
a
month it
is
beneficial
to
come
in
to
meet
with
the
therapist
for
a
detailed
discussion
of
the
progress
that
your
child
is
making,
your
questions,
changes
your
are
seeing
and
any
new
challenges
that
might
have
come
up.
Sometimes
it
isn't
easy
to
recognize
just
what
progress
looks
like
until
you understand
some
of
the
details
that
the
experienced
play
therapist
is
noticing.
So
its
good
to
know
that
you
are
actually
on
track
at
times
when
you
are
wondering
what
the
improvements
might
be.
Regular updates
also
give
the
therapist
more
information
to
work
with
as we
look
for
the
meaning
of
the
play
themes
and
metaphors.
That
way
the
therapist
can
offer
corrective
guidance
that
fits
the
child's
experiences
more
closely.
Which
means
the
work
moves
at
an
optimal
rate.
The
play
therapist
will
also
be
sharing some
of
the
techniques
used
in
your
child's
play
session
so
you
can
use
them
in
the
home
setting
as
well.
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Participating in Your Child's Therapy .
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In many instances,
it
can
be
very
productive
to
participate
directly
in
your
child's
play
sessions.
You
learn
so
much
and
children
often
love
it
when
their
parent
participates.
The
benefits
of
adding
this
element
to
your
child's
work
is
determined
on
an
individual
basis.
If
you
like
to
read
parenting
books
then
you
will
enjoy
having
the
opportunity
to
fill
in
some
of
the
missing
pieces by
applying
your
new
parenting
tools
in
the
play
therapy
session.
Because
children
act
out
many
of
their
most
challenging
behaviors
right
there
in
our
sessions,
it
gives
parents
a
wonderful
opportunity
to
receive
valuable
coaching
as
you
apply
new
parenting
skills.
Also
learn
important
tips
by
watching
the
therapist
apply techniques
that
will
help
your
specific
child
the
most.
So
parents
have
the
opportunity
to
gain
valuable
support
while
learning
some
of
the
effective
tools
that
play
therapists
use.
Knowing When to
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A
child
might
need
play
therapy
if
there
have
been
one
or
more
recent
changes
or
a
crisis
in
the
family.
Large
changes
are
easier
to
understand,
but
even
small
changes
can
be
surprisingly
challenging
for
children.
Look
for
clues
for
the
presence
of
stress.
They
can
show
up
as acting-out
behaviors,
general
irritability,
withdrawal
behaviors
or
becoming
clingy.
If
there
are
noticeable
changes
in
their
behaviors
in
general
or
if
they
start
acting
younger
than
they
usually
do,
they
might
be experiencing
some
stress.
It
is
also
very
helpful
to consider
coming
in
for
a
few
sessions
as
a
preventative
measure
when
you
know
that
something
stressful
will
be
coming
up.
This
works
well
with
doctor
visits,
starting
at
a
new
school
and
other
unavoidable
situations
that
are
on
your
calendar.
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Common
Stressors
for
Children
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Children are usually pretty
flexible,
but
that
doesn't
mean
that
they
are
not
stressed by
challenging
situations.
For
example,
because
they
might
go
off
to
play
right
after
their
parent's
have
a
loud
argument
we
often
mistakenly
interpret
that
as
meaning they
were
not
affected
negatively
by
the
event. But
they
are
definitely
affected
by
the
intense
emotions
that
are
around
them.
Here
are
some
examples
of
things
that
are
commonly
stressful:
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Parents
not sharing
much
undivided
attention with
their
child.
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Child's
difficulty
regulating feelings
in
high
stimulation environments.
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Fears
of
being
abandoned by parents
when
parents
are
busy.
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Divorced
parents,
child
struggles
with feeling
divided
loyalty.
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Custody
issues
and
the
challenges
of
living
in
two
households.
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Using
food
as
a
way
to
self-soothe.
- Family
members
or
others
yelling and
high intensity
conflicts.
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The
multiple
layers
and
questions
of
what
it
means
to
be
adopted.
Helping Your Whole
Family .
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Its amazing how much the whole
family
ends
up
feeling
better
once
the
child's
issues
start
resolving.
Frequently,
children end
up
playing
the
role
of
"canary
in
the
coal
mine".
They
frequently
let
us
know
when
something
is
going
awry
in
the
family
system.
If your
interest
is
sparked
a
little
by
this
idea,
read
our
article
"Playing
With
Your
Clients".
It
gives
a
case
example
that
illustrates
this
point.
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Note:
The use of this web site or
email
link
does
not
in
any
way imply
a patient-therapist
relationship.
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